Risk the unusual or settle for ordinary
Unless you choose to do great things with it, it makes no difference how much you are rewarded, or how much power you have. – Oprah Winfrey
Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go. – T. S. Eliot
This weekend, I was working at my desk when I heard some 20 year old kids making a ruckus in the back alley. They had gone through a neighbors trash and threw a bunch of furniture around like it was demolition day. Needless to say, I was pissed.
Without hesitation, I ran out to confront them, but they had already taken off. You might say that was stupid of me to confront boys alone. You might say I was brave.
My boyfriend came running out after me, only to see me standing in the back alley alone. He told me I was brave, but what if those boys had come back to fight me?
It made me realize that, I have always taken the risk to defend what’s just & right – for me, my life and future.
Here’s what I told him:
“I’m not scared. If the Universe/God/Spaghetti Monster decides it is my time to die, then I am okay with it. I’ve followed my heart to the fullest extent and know (without a doubt) that I have more work to do to help others find the spiritual & creative balance between life and work. So bring it!”
In retrospect, almost 20 years ago I impulsively quit my cushy job to defend my self worth and pursue my dreams. My colleagues and bosses didn’t respect what I had to offer. I was always hoping they’d reward me for my hard work. When they didn’t, I left. I hadn’t thought that almost two decades later, I’d be sitting here teaching people how to do the same.
So what if your cushy job went away? What would you have left?
In order to survive, you need to defend what’s right for you.
Here’s the truth: Make *productive* progress. Don’t waste your time spinning your wheels for naught.
Make productive progress. Don’t waste your time spinning your wheels for naught.
What does that mean?
Step 1: Discover what makes you happy. Not in a “consumption, taking, receiving” type of way, but in a “giving, offering, serving” kind of way. Does that make sense?
Step 2: Break out of your comfort zone. Talk to strangers at a Starbucks. Say yes to social invites. Wear that thing in the closet that you were saving for a special day. Whatever it is, do something that might feel silly at the time, but can slowly boost your confidence, open up new conversations or get yourself out of a rut.
Step 3: Start working on that passion or hobby that you’ve always loved. Then let’s talk about how you can make a living doing that: a startup, non-profit, business..
Step 4: Optional: Say good bye to your employer because you’ve just created your dream life & career and are fulfilled financially & emotionally.
In order to live a life well lived, it’s a good idea to live FOR YOURSELF. Not for the expectations of your mom, your dog, your friends. YOU.
Have multiple revenue streams.
Pursue what makes you happy.
Put money aside to enjoy things you love.
Best of all, invest in yourself.
Author: Sonya is a former tech-founder, entrepreneur, brand strategist and business coach, helping businesses and entrepreneurs craft extraordinary brands out of ordinary chaos. Her favorite topics are brand strategies, user-experience, digital marketing, emotional intelligence, authenticity and how to use storytelling to create momentum. Connect with her on Linkedin, Facebook or Schedule a call here.